Have a clear written policy and procedure to follow
in instances of disclosure. This will help to ensure
everyone’s safety and can be easily referred to when
knowledge is limited. Creating these policies and
procedures collaboratively with people in your religious
community can also help to build compassion and
capability. See the end of this document for resources.
Survivors may or may not wish to
maintain a connection with their
religious community. You can represent
a supportive version of a religious
community which can be healing for the
survivor.
Pastoral care for survivors
Professional mental health support
Conversion practices affect survivors’ mental health,
both during the practices and immediately after. Be
prepared to offer tailored pastoral care to survivors.
Recovery from conversion practices is seldom linear
and will likely continue throughout an individual’s
life. Access to an LGBTQIA+ accepting counsellor
or psychologist has been shown to be a key factor in
recovery for survivors.xx
It must be noted that pastoral care has been used as
a channel for conversion practices in some settings.
Because of this, there is a need to provide care that
genuinely affirms people as LGBTQIA+. This means
protecting and supporting their identity as well as
meeting their spiritual and mental health needs in a
way that affirms their experience and the harm caused.
Shame is often a significant factor in a survivor’s story.
When conversion practices are happening, a person
may feel shame about their identity or about not being
able to change. Even after exiting conversion practices,
a survivor may feel shame for participating especially if
they also had a role in performing conversion practices
on themselves or others. As with all pastoral care for
people affected by shame, survivors need gentle aroha
and kōrero whakamana (uplifting words).
Pastoral carers without relevant qualifications and
experience in affirming support for LGBTQIA+ people
should raise the importance of referral to another
service by offering to help them find a suitable and
affirming counsellor or practice. It is unlikely a faithbased counsellor will be appropriate.
Support also needs to be culturally competent and
responsive. Many survivors have experienced mental
health professionals who are uncomfortable talking
about religious beliefs or cultural practices they are not
familiar with, or who have assumed they will leave their
religion or culture. Having someone who is educated
and open to gently talking about spirituality and culture
can be valuable to a person’s recovery.
Make sure you are open with survivors about what you
can and cannot do and why. As much as possible have
conversations on an equal footing. It may also be better
to meet at a neutral venue rather than a pastoral office
or church building.
Survivors may feel nervous or unsafe opening up about
their experience to someone who represents a religious
institution given the potential negative associations
with their experience. Approach the situation with
empathy and respect for the survivor’s experiences
and boundaries.
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